Author’s Note: This bonus chapter is a mock Question and Answer session done by Cassandra on her blog. It could take place at any time after Arc 1.
Q & A: Feminization
Dear Ms. C.
Why do you feminize your sub in such a way when he obviously dislikes it? Shouldn’t that kind of thing be consensual? Isn’t humiliating him like that a bit abusive? It seems cruel and unfair.
It seems I get asked questions like these about once a month. If you read my earlier Question & Answer posts you will see that I have answered these questions in some capacity several times over.
Our lifestyle is one that was built up slowly over deep levels of love and trust. We entered into this relationship with both eyes open. It was 100% consensual and I made no secret that I expected his total obedience. He promised he would do whatever it took to make me happy. I don’t understand how it can appear unfair for us to simply do what we agreed to do. He made his choice just as I made mine.
Cruel? Certainly. I first feminized him as part of one of his old fantasies and to display his new role in our household as my maid. I continue to feminize him because he dislikes it. It is a symbol of my control and power over him. It’s easy to make a sub do what he wants to do. I like watching a sub squirm as I order them to do what they do not want to do. Partly why I keep changing up his uniform is that I never want him to get used to it and have it feel normal.
I love watching him blush and the expression his face makes when he feels shame. I love seeing him squirm and writhe in his own skin when I show him off to my friends. This brings me hours of amusement every single day. I am absolutely certain if you asked him that he would rather suffer for my amusement than feel normal and deny me that pleasure. This is part of how we show our love for each other.
Humiliating? Absolutely. Abusive? Hardly.
If you wish to judge me for how the dynamics of our relationship differ from your ideas that is your loss. We have had eight happy years together to evolve us to this state and it is unlikely we will resemble some one-off BDSM scene between two parties who barely know each other.